Posts Tagged ‘Personal Development’

We onyl have so much time each day, so you should try as much as possible to spend it doing things that you like. Ideally you should spend it doing things that both improve your skills or you as a person and doing something that you like. For most people, this seems to give a greater sense of satisfaction than just sitting in front of the TV.

Trying lots of new things is a great idea and will help you find what you really like. The ones that you stay with and get good at will give you the most benefit. 

However, there are also times when we should give things up.

For example, let’s say that you decide to try and learn the piano. You purchase a book, take some lessons, and learn to play a little. However, after time goes by, you find yourself playing less and less. It’s not that you don’t like to play, but it isn’t important enough or enjoyable enough to make a priority. Unfortunately, the entire time it will be on the back of your mind that you should be playing more. As long as you keep it in your mind that you will “practice tomorrow”, that guilt will keep nagging at you. Deciding to just quit can help relieve some of that stress.

So when should you not quit?

When you enjoy it too much. You don’t care how good you get, but you sit down and play everyday anyways. Doing something because you love it is always better than doing something because you think you have to.

I figured this title is appropriate since I am sitting in the waiting room of a hospital.

This last April I turned 30 years old, and as I am getting older I am noticing that I tend to get irritated quicker and complain more than I used to. It seems to happen to most people as they get older. My grandfather was definitely a complainer in his older age. However, it’s not really a road I want to follow.

Most of my complaining tends to come from people’s lack of respect and manners. Especially when I am in the car. I don’t get upset at the actual action, as I do with the disbelief that the person doesn’t pay enough attention to not do it in the first place.  As my grandfather said, “things just aren’t like they used to be”. I feel the same way, and yet there is no going back. We can only move forward.

The problem is that complaining doesn’t change anything. In many cases people may not even no they are doing something that causes others trouble. But what do you do about it? This is still something that I haven’t figured out. However, if you decide to confront someone about it, then you should always do it politely and with the assumption that they didn’t know they were causing you grief. If you go in hot headed, then it probably won’t go well. I have also found it is better to say something immediately rather than let it go on (in cases that involve neighbors, housing, etc), as it will only get worse later.

My current way of thinking is that there seem to be two decent possibilities. One, ignore it and go with the “in the end it doesn’t really matter” feeling. The second, and more difficult, is to try and make changes. But changing others is more difficult than changing yourself, especially on a large scale.

What do you think? Do you have rages in your car, or have rude neighbors who won’t quit their dogs? How do you handle it?