Archive for August, 2011

I figured this title is appropriate since I am sitting in the waiting room of a hospital.

This last April I turned 30 years old, and as I am getting older I am noticing that I tend to get irritated quicker and complain more than I used to. It seems to happen to most people as they get older. My grandfather was definitely a complainer in his older age. However, it’s not really a road I want to follow.

Most of my complaining tends to come from people’s lack of respect and manners. Especially when I am in the car. I don’t get upset at the actual action, as I do with the disbelief that the person doesn’t pay enough attention to not do it in the first place.  As my grandfather said, “things just aren’t like they used to be”. I feel the same way, and yet there is no going back. We can only move forward.

The problem is that complaining doesn’t change anything. In many cases people may not even no they are doing something that causes others trouble. But what do you do about it? This is still something that I haven’t figured out. However, if you decide to confront someone about it, then you should always do it politely and with the assumption that they didn’t know they were causing you grief. If you go in hot headed, then it probably won’t go well. I have also found it is better to say something immediately rather than let it go on (in cases that involve neighbors, housing, etc), as it will only get worse later.

My current way of thinking is that there seem to be two decent possibilities. One, ignore it and go with the “in the end it doesn’t really matter” feeling. The second, and more difficult, is to try and make changes. But changing others is more difficult than changing yourself, especially on a large scale.

What do you think? Do you have rages in your car, or have rude neighbors who won’t quit their dogs? How do you handle it?

After we got off the glass boat, we were a little bit hungry and decided to go to one of our favorite places for some soft cream, Utopia Farms. Utopia Farms is a tropical fruit farm that also has a restaurant. As I mentioned there soft cream is particularly good.

After you’ve had some food you can walk through their fruit farm and see the different plants and flowers. They especially have a lot of different kinds of hibiscus.